I have been very fortunate to grow up in a household where love has no boundaries. My parents are the most loving, caring and giving people that I know. They will help absolutely anybody who is in need of help, regardless if they know them or not. This been said, loving unconditionally has been hot wired into my very being and as a parent I am trying to do the same with my children. Loving unconditionally becomes extremely hard when God places people in your path who are not so loving at all and tells you to love them. Let me tell you, it’s not easy. My parents have taught me that when you do something for someone, you do it with love and don’t expect anything in return, no matter what the situation.
I remember one day being at my wits end with someone who I really want to love. I remember confiding in my husband about how this person goes against every single thing that I believe in and how most days I wanted to throttle her. I tried to help her but she pushed me away. I tried to connect with her countless times but it never happened. It’s like everything she says is just to upset me. Now don’t get me wrong, she is a beautiful person. She is kind and caring, but not in the ways that I know or expect her to be. I remember praying one day and asking God to help me with her (I actually prayed this everyday), but this day I was finished. I told God that I was going to wipe my hands clean of her, I told God that I didn’t want to have her in my life anymore. I was done. I said to God, how can I love someone who will probably never love me back? God spoke to me and said, isn’t that what Jesus did on the cross for all of humanity? True love. Unconditional love. It dawned on me that day, she never had the same upbringing that I had. She wasn’t shown the same love my parents have shown me. Unconditional love was not hot wired into her as it was in me. It dawned on me that not everyone is brought up with love. So I’m going to love her, every day, even if she does not even like me. I will greet her and treat her with respect without expecting it in return. That’s unconditional love. Although I ask whoever is reading this blog to pray for me because it’s not easy and I’m probably going to fall a lot on this, but I will stand up and try again, with the help of Jesus.
On a lighter (not so lighter) note I want to encourage you to give without expecting anything in return.
Help; not because you want help.
Bless those around you even if you know they will never do the same for you.
Lastly; love…your partner, your children, your parents, your siblings and all those who don’t love you…unconditionally.
I’m going to leave you with this quote “because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.” Unknown
This goes out to that one person who inspired this blog. I love you, I’m sorry if I hurt you and I will try harder.