I battle so often to get things off my heart. I truly believe that everything we go through happens for a reason. Some people choose to ignore these happenings and carry on with their life, but I refuse to. There are so many people out there who are hurting, secretly! You will never know because you choose to be blind to it all but open your eyes for just one second and you will finally see what’s happening all around you.

As I previously mentioned in one of my earlier blogs, I like to look at peoples eyes, not to intimidate them or anything, but simply to just understand what they are going through, although I will never feel the pain they feel or understand the burdens they carry daily, I can choose to be kind to them , offer them a hug or a smile, something that will just for one second maybe make their day a little more bearable.

I was reading an article this morning about eyes. In this article the author Adam Anderson said something that got me thinking, “The eyes are the windows to the soul…this communicates to others how we think and feel.” I immediately had a recollection of flashbacks of so many people I have been in contact with. I only then understood why they were the way they were. It all started to make sense to me. It made me want to just be kind to EVERYONE I meet.

Yesterday I saw an old friend whom I haven’t seen in over a decade. I was talking to her briefly before I ran off to do some shopping, she smiled so often, but it was a different smile that I have never seen on her. She spoke like she always did, but there was something different in her eyes. I said goodbye and off I went. Later when I got home, I remembered that a couple of years ago this old friend had lost a husband, a life long partner, the man of her dreams and now she was all alone. The pain in her eyes finally made sense to me.

I say it so often, you never ever know what people are going through unless you walk in their shoes and feel their pain and understand their heartache.

Earlier today I saw a photo of a beautiful woman on Facebook, happy and pregnant, then I looked into her eyes and saw that same look I had seen in my old friend, she also lost someone she deeply cared about a couple of years ago. You might see these people walking around you each day, but you don’t know anything.

Lastly, I saw a photo of a friend from ‘way back when’ this morning. She was standing with her husband and smiling beautifully, but her eyes made my heart so sore, for I know she has been praying for a family of her own and still hasn’t fallen pregnant. You can see the years and years of longing in her eyes.

I see all this because I know, I am also that person who stands and smiles, but deep down inside I am just as broken as everyone else, I have had dreams crushed, some days unbearable stress on my shoulders, and pains that I myself can’t explain sometimes…most times!!!

Here’s my favourite part of my blogging, where I get to encourage you.

I want to encourage you to actually look at people when you talk to them, be kind always because that colleague you are always hard on might be having troubles at home, that woman in the grocery store who is so “full of nonsense” lost a sister recently. That boss that you hate, goes home to an empty house because he or she has lost everything either to crime or death, sometimes both!!! That woman at the post office is battling to start a family of her own for decades! The young rebellious teenager that gets on your last nerve might have been raped and is too scared to get help. That one “ignorant person in your life” is suffering mad depression…yet each of them chooses to just smile and pretend that everything is okay!

My prayer for each of you is that you just open your eyes. John 9 vs 25 “He replied, “Whether he is a sinner or not, I don’t know. One thing I do know. I was blind but now I see!””

I want to leave you with a few lyrics from my favourite song by Brandon Heath “Give me Your eyes”

“Give me your eyes for just one second

Give me your eyes so I can see,

Everything that I keep missing,

Give me your love for humanity.

Give me your arms for the broken-hearted

The ones that are far beyond my reach.

Give me Your heart for the ones forgotten.

Give me Your eyes so I can see.”.