With it almost being Christmas, I have been doing a lot of thinking about presents lately, not presents but presence. I had a friend tell me this week that the worst feeling in the world is sitting next to someone who you love but you feel all alone. I saw a post on Facebook that said parents should not buy their children presents for Christmas but instead spend time with their children. I for one know that my children have felt alone this school holiday because mommy is always busy trying to make everything perfect for everyone. When daddy gets home from work he is exhausted from the chaos of buzzing customers from sun up to sun down. Grandparents are too tired, Aunties and Uncles are too busy. It’s amazing that a house full of people can be so empty.
I believe that children and adults long for presence. I see how my parents long to spend time with their children and grandchildren. Yet, due to family drama, some people deny that presence to their own kids. I know how I long to spend time with my husband day in and day out but at the end of the day I’m physically and mentally drained and so is he that we both just fall into our own little place of comfort and neglect the very thing that keeps us together. I’ve seen picture perfect couples on Facebook, people that I physically know, look so in love, but behind closed doors those perfect pictures are just for show because they don’t spend any time together in each other’s presence.
I have seen friendships that once bloomed…wither, because they don’t spend any time in each other’s presence. They get the odd message here and there and they think that everything is fine, yet they know deep down inside that everything stopped being fine once they stopped spending time with each other.
Did you know that I have had full conversations with people, yet five minutes after we were done chatting, I do not remember a single thing that was said…it’s because I might have physically been there, but in all honesty I wasn’t there at all. This happens more often than I would like to admit.
I have seen families that where once thriving at church go to barely holding on by a thread because they stopped spending time in God’s presence.
I have seen people in church physically sitting there but spiritually they were nowhere to be found. Pastors preaching and they’re texting a friend and checking out the new light towards the right back corner of the second aisle. There but nowhere to be found.
I have physically sat doing my devotions, but not remember a single thing. I allowed none of God’s word to resonate in my heart.
Presence really is a big thing and I know we all fail at this daily in some way or another. It’s so easy to phase out and not be there in life, in those special moments, in those ordinary moments, in those stressful moments…in every moment!!
Here is where I want to encourage you…
Parents…spend time with your children, be there, fully aware of what you say and do…be present, mind body and soul!
Spouses…spend time with your spouses, be there, fully aware of what you say and do…be present, mind body and soul!
Family…spend time with each other, be there, fully aware of what you say and do…be present, mind body and soul!
Friends…spend time with each other, be there, fully aware of what you say and do…be present, mind body and soul!
You… spend time with God and go to church, be there, fully aware of what you say and do…be present, mind body and soul!
Let your children go and see their grandparents, aunties and uncles, let them be a part of your kid’s lives. If you don’t see that happening, grandparents, aunties and uncles, make the effort to go and see your family, be there, fully aware of what you say and do…be present, mind body and soul!
All I’m trying to get at is… it’s Christmas, Christmas is all about the gift. I mean God sent His only Son for us, the ultimate gift, the least you could do is give the gift of presence this Christmas.