Today I want to get you thinking. How often have you said something without thinking and instantly regretted it? Maybe you have said something and only thought about it at a later stage to realize what you said was damaging. Maybe you know exactly what you said would be damaging but chose to say it anyway. Let me tell you a little story.
Years ago, I fell pregnant. I was young…very young. I remember praying to God to help me everyday through my journey as a parent. I remember asking God to forgive me for doing what I did. I remember putting all my trust in God to help me through this challenge in my life. I also remember how judgmental people were, not only strangers but family and friends too. I remember someone very close to me who I love with all my heart telling me and a lot of people around me that I was now damaged goods. Wow, did these words break me in more ways than I could express, but I kept quiet, smiled and carried on with my life; at least that’s what I wanted to do. Honestly speaking, I sat countless days playing those words over and over in my head that I started to believe it. My self-worth started to deteriorate, my confidence shattered, and I just started to shut everyone around me out. I was all alone. I had such unforgiveness in my heart that it started to consume me. My heart became hard all because I let those words ‘damaged goods’ resonate in my heart, I gave them permanent residence.
Eleven years later and I have finally shared this publicly because it doesn’t hurt anymore. I gave it all over to Jesus and He healed the pain that I carried for over a decade. I totally forgive the person who said those words. I’m pretty sure that person doesn’t even remember saying that to me or has forgot about it a long time ago.
I want to encourage you to think before you speak. James 3 vs 5 says “In the same way, the tongue is a small thing that makes grand speeches. But a tiny spark can set a great forest on fire.” NLT.
What you say can make or break a person. You don’t know how strong someone is unless you are that someone. Ephesians 4 vs 29 says “Don’t use foul language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” NLT
Please think carefully before telling your co-worker that they are stupid, they might be doing their very best.
Please think carefully before telling someone that they are fat, they might be doing everything in their power to lose weight and eat healthy.
Please think carefully before telling your young children that they are irresponsible, they might be trying real hard to be as responsible as you want them to be. Let them learn without you bringing them down, try use phrases that are not detrimental.
Think carefully before telling your spouse that they are a failure. Chances are they are sacrificing everything for you.
I could mention a million different things not to say to someone but I’m sure you get the picture.
I just want you to know that there is power in the tongue and if you think before you speak you will realize that.
Even though being told I was now damaged goods was unnecessary, God still taught me something through it. He taught me to put my life in his hands and trust him through it all. Who would’ve of thought that eleven years later I would be blogging…?
I want to urge you to please think before you speak as there are many ways to get a message through.
I want to leave you with this quote, “Before you say something, think how you’d feel if someone said it to you.”