Quite recently someone whom I love deeply was/is quite ill. She has been in and out of hospital. She has and still needs a lot of bed rest. She is on lots of medication. She battles day in and day out with this illness. She has had to take time off work. She has basically had to put her life on hold due to this illness. I wonder how many of you have been in the same situation? Where you have been sick that you couldn’t go to work or even pull yourself out of bed. I wonder how many of you have been in hospital? I’m sure you appreciated your family and friends support and understanding. I’m sure you appreciated the kind messages and prayers. I’m sure you are more than happy once you’ve been all healed up and ready to get your life on track again.
Now if I had to tell you that this inspiring woman in my life was and is suffering with depression, would that make her any less of a woman than she is. Does she automatically get the “oh, its just depression” card? Does it automatically make her illness ‘null & void’?
I understand that not everyone thinks like that, but I also know that a lot of people do…I did, that’s until I understood! Only those who are uneducated in this area will brush depression off likes its nothing.
Let me tell you, when I found out that this most incredible woman was suffering from depression and other mental illnesses, I wasn’t supportive. I love her and I told her that I was there for her if she needed me and then that was it…I was dead quiet for weeks!!! I’m actually ashamed of myself with my backwards way of thinking. I saw all her updates and I watched all her videos that she posted about what was happening and I literally brushed it off… Thinking about it now makes my heart really sore that I wasn’t there for her in her time of need…let me tell you she is always one of the first people to support me through anything and everything and where was I in her time of need?
I remember a couple of weeks ago I posted a blog of a neighbor who took his own life, I posted that we need to be there for our fellow brothers and sisters, we need to help and encourage them, we need to be their support structure…well I couldn’t even practice what I preached. Things must change!!!
So, over the past couple of weeks I have been doing research about depression and mental illnesses. Do yourself a favour and click on this link? Educate yourself about mental health so that you can help someone else who is battling it, when I say help, its basically just support and encourage because that’s literally the only thing you can do.
To those who are battling depression and other mental illnesses, I want to apologize for being so narrow-minded. The only way I behaved the way I did was because I was uneducated, that’s why I am writing this blog, to educate not only myself but others as well.
To those who are battling depression and other mental illnesses, I want to encourage you to never give up, you are more than a warrior. You are a conqueror!!!
Also if you need help, please click this link, help is available…you are not alone in this.
To those of you who are fortunate enough to not suffer with mental illnesses, please stop and think before you say something. Please don’t brush it off like it doesn’t matter because it really does matter. Please start supporting your loved ones, they really need it. One encouraging word could mean the world to someone who suffers with depression.
Lastly, I want to say, you may not always be able to see depression, its not something you can put a bandage on, be kind to all those you meet, you just don’t know what is happening in their lives.
My Uncle told me something quite significant the other day and I feel I just need to put this out there, he said “Will we ever be able to love other people, as we love ourselves?” At the end of the day it all boils down to love.
To the warrior who inspired this blog, I want you to know that I am sorry for being so distant and not supportive. I want you to know that you are my hero. You are incredible, and I hope that one day I can turn out to be a quarter of the woman that you are. You hang in there sunshine, you are going to change the lives of thousands if not millions with your strength and courage.