February… the month of love. Where couples spend huge amounts of money going out to dinner, buying expensive gifts and flowers and not to mention data. I’m pretty sure that our network providers feel the love more than anything this month. I have spent quite a bit of time shopping these days, as my daughter’s birthday is coming up and I have been looking for bargains everywhere because money is tight. The one thing I found more than bargains was Valentine’s Day stuff. Chocolates were on ‘special’, roses were on ‘special’, the cliche teddy bear in a mug was on ‘special’ and people were buying; left, right and center. My brother and sister in law work at a restaurant and when I asked him if he was busy on Valentine’s Day, his eyes almost popped out of his head.

What about that question? You know which one I’m talking about! The…What you doing for Valentine’s Day question? I always respond that my husband and I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day because we love each other every day. Yep, we are one of those couples. Couples who celebrate Valentine’s Day roll their eyes when they hear this, it’s actually quite funny to watch. I have nothing against Valentine’s Day and I’m not bashing you if you celebrate Valentine’s Day, but hear me out quickly. I see people flirting, hugging, kissing, chatting and throwing ‘I love you’s’ around like Oprah Winfrey does free stuff. The next day, depending on how well your night was, the flirting, hugging, kissing and I love you’s are much less seen and it becomes less and less as each day passes by. Why? Well it’s simple, people don’t know what love is anymore. Love is not wasting money on gifts. Love is not going out to expensive restaurants. Love is not something you can buy or say. Love is something you need to show. Love is a verb, it needs to be shown. Not just one day of the year, but every day. Love is cooking dinner for your husband even though you are having an argument. Love is cleaning the kitchen for your wife, not because she is sick or tired but just because. Love is communicating through life’s challenges with each other no matter how uncomfortable or tough they may be. Love is sacrificing what you want for another’s needs… Love didn’t say He was going to die on the cross. Love died on the cross. Jesus is love and let me be dead honest with you, you will never know what real love is until you know Jesus.

Chocolates will be consumed, flowers will die, gifts will be forgotten and your data will always run out, but real love is eternal. 1 Corinthians 13 vs 4-7 says “Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstance.” So love is being patient, not just with your significant other but everyone you claim to love. Love is kind…be kind, sprinkle kindness everywhere you go. Love is not jealous…this one speaks for itself. Love is not boastful, proud or rude; if you are rude to someone, you don’t love them. Love does not demand its own way. If you have the “it’s my way or no way attitude”, you don’t know what love is. Love is not irritable, so when you’ve had a rough day at work and your spouse is the likely target, consider that love is not irritable. Love keeps no record of being wronged, so no “I told you so’s”, as tempting as it may be. Love does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up…IT NEVER GIVES UP!!!! Love never loses faith, have faith in your partner and support them through everything. Love is always hopeful and love endures through every circumstance, that’s every fight, argument and disagreement. Read 1 Corinthians vs 13 whenever you can as a reminder on how to love. Don’t just recite it like a parrot like I used to, actually read it, hide its words in your heart.

If you’re like me and you fail at this daily, don’t lose hope, ask God to help you. If you don’t know God, or you have never given your heart to the Lord, give your heart to Jesus, right here and right now. Discover real love, a love that will never leave nor forsake you. Once you know Jesus, you will know love.